Dating one girl love another
However, perhaps due to the crass associations of exchanging money and gifts for the attentions and sexual favors of prostitutes, mistresses, gigolos, and gold-diggers, research on Western dating has largely ignored the monetary and material aspects of these relationships. DATING AND COURTSHIP The role of material possessions in early middle class American courtship practices was not so much in impressive gift-giving as in displaying command of the resources for providing comfort and earning a living. 24) explains: Before a man could marry, he had to possess the means to support a wife and children....A related explanation for this lack of attention is the inappropriate intrusion of the profane into the supposed realm of the sacred when cash and gifts become too prominent in our view of dating (Belk, Wallendorf, and Sherry 1989, Belk and Wallendorf 1990). His marriage "portion"--the land he would farm, the house in which he and his bride would live--came from a share of his father's property.I spent so much money on the girl that I had to quit school for a quarter and work full time. In America, money seems to have taken a big role in dating. Like the Beatles song, I believe strongly that "money can't buy me love".True love is developed through true friendship and trust, and generosity is only one of those features.... I guess I find it difficult to separate love from money.For their part, women also needed to dress, dance, and talk well, plus be physically attractive.Dress became such a restrictive social barrier that women even quit going to school because of insufficiently fashionable wardrobes (Modell 1983).
Gifts and dating expenditures "say" what cannot be said in words.The result, according to Waller's analysis was for both men and women to feign true love while attempting to secretly remain indifferent.